She is the one you call when you are bored because she makes you laugh. She is the one you talk to when you are feeling down because she is willing to lend an ear and be a friend. She is not eh one you call when you need a date to your company's Christmas Party, or to go dancing on a Saturday night. She is the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One". You know, the one you keep in the MEANTIME.
She is not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as a "real" woman either. She is not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in the light. She is too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She is too understanding, too comfortable. Does not make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she is cool, nice and funny, and attractive enough that when you are lonely and need intimate female companionship, she will do just fine.
She is not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as a "real" woman either. She is not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in the light. She is too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She is too understanding, too comfortable. Does not make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she is cool, nice and funny, and attractive enough that when you are lonely and need intimate female companionship, she will do just fine.
You don't have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don't have any facades to keep up, no pretense to preserve. You are not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She is not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you. And you know that you don't have to explain yourself or the situation, that she will be able to cope with the fact that this is not the beginning of a relationship or that there is any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.
It won't bother her that you'll get up in the morning, put your pants, say goodbye and go on a date with the woman you have been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She will settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She is just so cool. Why can't all woman be like that?
But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't because to you, the situation between the two of you is not important enough to merit any real thought) you know that it's really not fair.
It won't bother her that you'll get up in the morning, put your pants, say goodbye and go on a date with the woman you have been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She will settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She is just so cool. Why can't all woman be like that?
But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't because to you, the situation between the two of you is not important enough to merit any real thought) you know that it's really not fair.
You know that she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don't think she is good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it's mostly her fault because she does not give in to your needs - she could really play hard to get. Bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she know that she probably could not pull it off. Maybe she is too short, or a little overweight, or has a big birthmark on her forehead, or works at a fast food chain, or just not really not the type.
Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of rally great qualities but has left out the ones en want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.
You will joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and she will laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.
She does not captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile.
Mainly, she blends in with the crowd. She is safe. She does not want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone's head. She wants to be SPECIAL to someone too. We all do.
Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of rally great qualities but has left out the ones en want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.
You will joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and she will laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.
She does not captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile.
Mainly, she blends in with the crowd. She is safe. She does not want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone's head. She wants to be SPECIAL to someone too. We all do.
She has feelings. She has heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger heart than any woman you have even known because she has a front row seat to the mess that is your life, and she likes it anyway.
She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you have given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.
She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you have given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.
Disclaimer: This entry is a repost. Saw this post while browsing the other day. Credit should go to this person, just wanted to share.
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